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The author of my book makes a good point when talking about Gestalt Experiments. The goal is to surface emotions from past events and experience them in the present, and the author mentions that "of course, many men have been socialized not to express intense feelings."
The thing about this is that I absolutely believe it. There are so many people, primarily women (though I don't mean to overgeneralize so please don't be offended) that see a great many men as being cold, unfeeling, and unresponsive to emotional situations. The whole idea that women can talk about their feelings and men can't is a properly grounded one. But why? Because men, and I really speak for myself here - though I believe it can be generalized to a broader population, are conditioned through socialization and ideology to be that way. I myself, in real life and out of the cone of protectiveness that is livejournal, am very closed-mouth and locked-in with my emotions. I'm afraid to reveal emotions, afraid to appear fragile, and I most definetely do not allow myself to be seen as weak or emotionally expressive (other than the big ones, of course). Because this is a large part of gender socialization. Whether we learn it through our parents, teachers, friends, whathaveyou, men and women alike are taught how they are supposed to act. And I never even attributed the emotional detachment of the male gender to this gender bias. Have you?
Something to think about, boys and girls.
The thing about this is that I absolutely believe it. There are so many people, primarily women (though I don't mean to overgeneralize so please don't be offended) that see a great many men as being cold, unfeeling, and unresponsive to emotional situations. The whole idea that women can talk about their feelings and men can't is a properly grounded one. But why? Because men, and I really speak for myself here - though I believe it can be generalized to a broader population, are conditioned through socialization and ideology to be that way. I myself, in real life and out of the cone of protectiveness that is livejournal, am very closed-mouth and locked-in with my emotions. I'm afraid to reveal emotions, afraid to appear fragile, and I most definetely do not allow myself to be seen as weak or emotionally expressive (other than the big ones, of course). Because this is a large part of gender socialization. Whether we learn it through our parents, teachers, friends, whathaveyou, men and women alike are taught how they are supposed to act. And I never even attributed the emotional detachment of the male gender to this gender bias. Have you?
Something to think about, boys and girls.