Yeah, I know, I'm sorry.

[synapticjava]

I'll put this post behind a cut because I know I'm flooding your f-lists today.


Something I forgot to mention in last night's post that made me really very sad.

On our train ride home, Matt and I were sitting together and I had my arm around him casually. We were talking about some of the guys we'd seen downtown and about Arben's party and general guy stuff. While we were talking, I noticed that a few rows back from us was a straight couple, the guy had his arm around the girl. The guy was staring at us pretty intensely, and he had that "ew" look on his face. Then he started saying things to his girlfriend, and they were laughing. It continued for a while, meantime I keep getting madder and madder. I finally say something to Matt about it - "Should I take my arm away?" and he said no. Instead, he pulls it closer and leans into me, kisses me on the cheek and puts his head on my shoulder. To which this other guy vocally said "Gross - what are they doing out of their neighborhood?" Neither one of us said anything, but Matt started staring them down and kept doing it until we reached our stop. Matt got up and pulled me up by my arm and declares loudly "Yeah, that's right - the GAY stop" to no one in particular, and then we got off.

I guess I've gotten too comfortable, because since I moved here I haven't really had to deal with anything like that. Granted, that wasn't really that bad. But it makes me remember all the shit I had to deal with where I'm from. And it reminds me that things are not anymore okay here in the city then they are in a small town. There's always going to be bigots and there's always going to be people who hate me because I'm honest about who I am. It shouldn't bother me, but it does. I just don't understand it, and it makes me sad.

Comments

[wildflowerfever.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, Brad. Blah.

[authoressnebula.livejournal.com]

*hugs* So so sorry sweetie. I hate it too, even if I'm a straight (possibly bi) woman. Love comes in so many different ways. I hate that others can't see that.

~Nebula

[outsideth3box.livejournal.com]

Well, it's my theory that people like that are only put here to keep the electricity running to *my* house. It isn't until they step outside the electric company that we run into trouble.

Yep, they're extra. In the superfluous sense.

::hugs::

bigots suck!

[tsavoritegarnet.livejournal.com]

but it sounds like you two dealt with it really well, good for you!

For all that you had to deal with them, maybe you opened someone's mind along the way too. One can always hope at least!

[caviling]

WTF. "What are they doing out of their ghetto?" "The Fuhrer won't be happy about this!"

What a shithead.

[trepkos.livejournal.com]

You have a good man there - he'll do wonders for your confidence.

[kitty-poker1.livejournal.com]

I like Matt already. A lot. It's not you, hon, it's them. That guy's problem could have been that he was jealous. Why make a fuss if he's completely secure in his own sexuality. I'm ashamed of his girlfriend for not telling him he's an idiot and to stop.