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Cassandra ([personal profile] caviling) wrote in [personal profile] synapticjava 2007-06-21 07:10 am (UTC)

OK, I'm with you up until: (he says I make him uncomfortable sometimes with effeminate I can be)

...buh? You're perhaps the least effeminate person I know. Even then, that's a weird thing to make someone uncomfortable. I mean, unless you're jumping on chairs and shrieking every time you see a bug...that sounds like the kind of thing a person would say when what he mainly wants to do is hurt your feelings. I don't like it when people describe another person's unique batch of traits as some fill-in-the-blank catch-all: "You're just being hysterical!" "It makes me uncomfortable when you act effeminate!" "Oh, you need to cheer up; you're just so negative," &c. It's so reductive and dismissive and over-simplified. Anyway. Sounds like today was lots of fun; I'm very glad for that!

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