(never mind that also at the back of this space someone is saying: that's exactly why it didn't work - I keep kicking them to shut 'em up).

Yeah, that voice can go to hell. If it "worked" because you weren't being you it wouldn't have been working very well anyway.

I know you'll find yourself, too. You're so strong sometimes it amazes me, and it takes real strength to let yourself grieve for a relationship in its own time.