No, you're absolutely right. He's made a lot of progress and so have I. And we are starting to see a gradual extension of that "safe zone" which is very nice. I had seen a therapist before this when I was single and she was just OUT THERE floating in some kind of New Age patchouli garden. So, I was unfairly a tad skeptical about therapy working. But it really does. I think alot of it depends on who you get though. You have to have a committed therapist whose philosophy you agree with.

Leave the hat on, Brad. It suits you. :) I can hardly leave my grad student hat off long enough to write Spander. Kitty's like, "Okay Lorraine. Neither Spike or Xander is going to examine their relationship in light of Foucauldian constructs of sexuality. Nor are they going to join a bookclub and discuss symbolism in Toni Morrison. Get those boys to a bar, babe"