Oh, see, being a future(godplease!) psychologist, I never even thought you guys would've had trouble. Heh. Believe it or not, a lot of couples go to counseling just for the hell of it (or, to improve communication, even if there isn't really a "problem").

Well, if I may say, otherwise tell me to take a hike, but though your feelings of resentment are completely understandable and justifiable, I'd say that just the fact that he's gotten to that point is a huge task. And one of the goals of your therapy is or should be to extend that "safe zone" to your own home and into your relationship without there being a therapist involved. And if you guys keep it up, that should happen naturally.

*takes off freudian glasses and hat* Sorry - you can take the boy out of psychology but not the psychology out of the boy.