My husband suffers from this dilemma. I always thought those Cosmo "Women are from Mars..." quizzes were a load of hooey until I met the man who would be my husband. Many of those things that scientists say are gender-specific, or at least, gender-likely seem to be true of us anyway. He doesn't understand that me complaining to him about a problem doesn't necessitate a "fix." He wants to offer concrete advice instead of sympathy. He's also very closemouthed about his own feelings. I'm finding out things from him that he really should've told me six years ago and only because we're in therapy and he feels "safe" saying it there. Hm....